There is no greater excitement than to have your lover surprise you with something wonderful, even if it is a small gesture of love. Adding a bit of spice is one of the biggest keys for “how to be happy in relationship.” Now, women, let me make this very clear … no matter how many times you try to teach this to your mate, men don’t take hints very well … so tell them what you want and how you want them to surprise you. This may sound a bit contrived that something so clearly stated could ever possibly be a surprise, but it can. Men quite often need to be guided to be great lovers, so help them. If you like chocolate, tell him to hide some around the house in creative places, so that you can find them throughout the day and think of him. If you like flowers, tell him to send them on occasion. For men, give your partner subtle hints of what you would like so that she can think it’s her idea to give you an original surprise as generally, women don’t usually need as much prompting. But alas, if you find one that does, tell her how to surprise you and to please you so that she knows how.

How to be Happy in Relationship

One of my favorite things when I was in college was to surprise my boyfriend by showing up at his office in a trench coat, with nothing underneath other than fishnet stockings and sexy shoes. This was so much fun and he never tired of those moments. Another wonderful surprise, that doesn’t take a lot of time, is to leave little notes in the pocket of your lover so that he or she can find them throughout the day … just remember that you placed them there so that you don’t think your partner is having an affair if you find them later :). If you have an open mind and want to spice things up a bit, pick him or her up from work and ask them to go for a ride with you … then take them to an exotic dance club, or simply surprise them with a romantic weekend at an inn or a restaurant for the evening (if you’d like something more low key). Try taking a gourmet lunch and wine to a beautiful park and have your beloved meet you there on a lunch break … or experiment by body painting each other on a rainy night. Whatever you choose, it’s really important to use your creative edge and find out what really makes your partner tick. Again, this is so important to practice being thoughtful and original in order to maintain happiness in a relationship.

Try this little experiment. Ask your partner to wear a blindfold as you entice their body and mind with little treats, such as berries and cream, feathers across the body, little kisses and licks where they least expect it, their favorite aromas waved under their nose and any other pleasurable sensation that you think would turn them on.

Women, sometimes men feel a bit overlooked with our efforts to take care of the family and household, so a little surprise is a nice way to let them know they are loved and appreciated when they least expect it. Men, women need foreplay throughout the day, not just a bit of oral sex before intercourse. To a woman, foreplay begins when the sun rises and continues until the lights go out at night. The more you supply her with love, romance and sensuality beforehand, especially if she has been nurturing others all day long, the more responsive she will be when you desire her affection.

So have a little fun today and find something unique to add to the elixir of love in your life!

by Cat Millier